#454 Two Words that can Amplify Your Authentic Self with Rianne Klein Getlink

This week, I’m joined by my friend and fellow mastermind member, Rianne Klein Getlink, for a conversation about authenticity, self-expression, and the subtle ways we learn to wear masks to fit into the world around us. We talk about how conditioning, professional expectations, and social pressure can slowly disconnect us from who we naturally are, along with why the things that feel most effortless to us are often the biggest clues to our authentic selves. We also explore two Dutch words that don’t have direct English translations but completely change the way we think about ease, joy, anticipation, and possibility. This episode is a reminder that reinvention is always available and that maybe the parts of yourself you’ve been trying to tone down are actually the parts that were meant to shine the brightest. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS:
• Many women unknowingly wear “masks” to fit in
• What feels effortless may reveal your authentic self
• Conditioning can disconnect us from our natural energy
• Anticipation and joy are experiences worth cultivating
• “Yes, and” thinking creates more creativity and possibility
• Small mindset shifts can change your energy quickly
• Reinvention is possible at any stage of life

ABOUT GUEST:
Most of us desire to BE ourselves in every context, yet as we age we create a multitude of filters and masks between who we are and how we express ourselves. Rianne (49, The Netherlands) is on a mission to bring out all and more that what makes you YOU into the world.

We're all born with an innate energy that wants to be expressed and instead of dimming your light, let's amplify all that lives in you so that we get to witness the real you and in return you feel actually seen as you.

A Less Stressed Life because you get to live it as YOU.

WHERE TO FIND GUEST:
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🤝 You don’t have to figure it out alone
❤️ Do your best and leave the rest

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Transcript

[00:00:00] Rianne Klein Getlink : sometimes it starts to feel real because you've totally immersed, but you totally integrated your own mask. You don't even know that you're wearing it anymore.

[00:00:07] Christa Biegler, RD: I'm your host, Christa Biegler, and I'm going to guess we have at least one thing in common, that we're both in pursuit of a less stressed life. On this show, I'll be interviewing experts and sharing clinical pearls from my years of practice to support high-performing, health-savvy women in pursuit of abundance and a less stressed life.

One of my beliefs is that we always have options for getting the results we want, so let's see what's out there together.

Today on the Less Stressed Life, I am joined by Rianne Klein Getlink. I can't say her last name, but she's gonna correct me. She is my lovely friend from the Netherlands who I am in a business group with. We call it a mastermind, right? And Rianne presented to our group, she presented at a conference about these two little words that could change, that could help you amplify your entire life and your most authentic self.

So Rianne was having so much fun talking about this with this presentation that I invited her to come here, and she's such a brilliant, bright, vibrant woman. I think she's so much fun. What I think of when... I have a little bit of a bio about her, but Rianne helps people with human design in some way. Apply it to their business in however way, and I'll let her clarify what that is.

But here's what I have in her bio. Most of us desire to be ourselves in every context, yet as we age, we create a multitude of filters and masks between who we are and how we express ourselves. Rianne is on a mission to bring out all and more of what makes you into the world. We're all born with this innate energy that wants to be expressed, and instead of dimming your light, let's amplify it, all that lives in you so we get to witness the real you, and in return, you feel actually seen as you.

I love this. It's calming and beautiful and awesome. So Rianne, welcome to the show, first of all. Thank you. And feel free to clarify how we say your name. 

[00:02:21] Rianne Klein Getlink : Yeah. Thank you so much, Christa. I love being on your show. In English, you say Rianne Klein Getlink. If I were to say it in my own language, it would be Rianne Klein Getlink.

All right. I'll let you say it. So I won't even- I'll not try my best ... yeah, don't- Yeah ... don't worry about it. 

[00:02:37] Christa Biegler, RD: All right. So I would love to hear how some of this started. I love a good origin story, a little bit of a background story. And the thing to know is that something that I think is super fascinating about you, I've never met anyone who's got just this going on but your business is in Dutch only.

So all of your clients must speak Dutch, and your website is in Dutch, et cetera. So tell us a little bit about what you do in your work and how that happened. 

[00:03:03] Rianne Klein Getlink : Yeah. So right now my business is I teach coaches, psychologists, therapists how to use human design as an instrument in their work with other clients.

So not as a labeling tool, not as a personality typing system, not as Myers-Briggs, but we use a human design chart as what we say a lens to ask the client better questions. Interesting. Instead of as coaches, we all are biased. Even when a client is talking to us, we look through our own frame of mind.

And a human design chart takes away a little bit of that projection, or it diminishes that, so we look, as I say, I look ... i'm holding up a chart right now. I look through a d- a human design chart, and then I can ask you better questions based on your energy. So that it's less of what I think is going on, and more of just asking what, what's actually happening.

[00:03:59] Christa Biegler, RD: Yeah. I can understand what you mean by this, because I often find ... And we often look at the way we help people in different ways, and I think if I could really lean into the things I love to do, it's helping people ask better questions. Because truly, as one of our mentors says, the quality of questions you ask is the quality of life you have.

And until you start to really see that and experience that, you may not get what I mean by it, but it's really just if you could ask yourself ... Every time I'm stuck with something, I just try to ask myself a high-quality question. Any time my clients are not getting good answers from me, I ask them to ask a more specific question, a higher quality question

Because the level of question, people come in and, I think I can, hopefully this will be resonant. If someone comes in and asks a vague question, it can only yield a vague answer in general. And so questions are- Very true. Yeah ... yeah very valuable, very important. Okay. So you mention in the bio that often we create these filters and masks.

So before we get into some of what we're gonna chat about today, I wanna ask you what are some of these really common masks that you see? And this is interesting to me because I had Tracy Goodwin on the show, I'm not sure when, sometime in this last year, and she talks about the masks that we have of the voice.

And I actually want her to come back because she has been doing research on women having thyroid issues from not using their voice, and these masks that they really assume from all of the things that they experience in their life. But you are probably looking at this in a different way. And so I am curious about the filters or the masks that you see especially women present with, especially even as we a- it says, as we age we have these different lenses or

I used to call myself quite a chameleon. I could just make myself work in any kind of group, which was a completely a filter, right? Or a mask or whatnot. And I was always annoyed by my husband, who had no filter and could not adapt to these scenarios and situations, right? So tell me a little bit about these common patterns that I'm sure that you see.

[00:05:53] Rianne Klein Getlink : We see, and obviously I work in a professional setting, so I work with coaches, like professional coaches or professional therapists, and, or even entrepreneurs for that matter. But even though for women, we use filters to, I have to look professional in a certain way. And that even that word professional, that's a big word in my- realm. Because there's If you ask 100 women what they, or people, what they mean with that word, you get 100 different answers. And everything is just conditioning. It's just what we as a society have think that word means.

It can be you have to project you're successful. You have to project that you're an expert or an authority. You have to project that to hide that you're secure. And that's how we show up, all to hide that we may not know the answer. Yeah. Or we may not have success yet, or we don't know, just simple I don't know and the question or the saying in a setting I don't know, that feels uncomfortable.

And, yeah, that's sad because it's kinda sad because as kids we don't have those filters. That's true. We don't at all. Do you have children? 

[00:07:10] Christa Biegler, RD: I do. You do. I have a few. How old? 

[00:07:11] Rianne Klein Getlink : How old? 

[00:07:12] Christa Biegler, RD: 21, 14, and 12.

[00:07:14] Rianne Klein Getlink : Okay let's stay with the youngest. 'Cause the 21-year-old probably already has a couple of...

That's a social pressure. I have to be a certain way- for sure ... in order to be accepted by my friends, and when we get older, that becomes my coworkers or my boss or whomever or even your partner or your spouse. And therefore, if we don't act a certain way we think, it's all mind fucks, sorry we think that we are being rejected or we're gonna be rejected.

So but your daughter she's 12, probably she already has some, like some filters. But even younger, she would just ask, and okay, what does it mean? I don't know how to do this. Okay, I play basketball, for example, and it didn't right away happen.

It's not failing. It's just, try another time. But as we grow older, in a professional setting, we lose it. We lose that, and we act a certain way, and deep down it feels not real. But sometimes it starts to feel real because you've totally immersed, but you totally integrated your own mask. You don't even know that you're wearing it anymore. Yeah. It looks like- Until the moment where someone asks and, yeah. So it's... you start to 

[00:08:22] Christa Biegler, RD: feel resistance or like you don't know. I think we go through these sort of crises- Crises

in our life sometimes, right? 

[00:08:29] Rianne Klein Getlink : That's why my origin story you asked origin story. 10 years ago, I just celebrated my 40th birthday, and at the time I was working as a freelance consultant- ... for companies. These long-term interim type contracts. And in the summer of 2016, I had just finalized a big contract, and I wasn't in the mood right away to start a new contract.

So I was like in this in-between phase, and I started to wonder "Do I really wanna do this for the rest of my life?" I was mainly serving these 65-year-old entrepreneurs who were just like wanting to make sure their pensions were saved. And I was like, "Do I wanna do this?" And then I realized, because in the Netherlands, your pension date is connected to your age.

I think it's the same in the United States- ... when your retirement fund kicks in. And every year the government changes those dates because we get older. Interesting. And so you could, on a website you could enter what year is your retirement year. And I saw the number, I can't even remember it now.

But I saw the year, and I realized I had just worked for 18 years, but I still had 30 plus to do. And I'm like, "I can reinvent myself."

[00:09:37] Christa Biegler, RD: that's what I'm here for is these stories. If we could just- Yeah ... rename the podcast, I'd say let's call it Reinvention Stories, 'cause I love pivots and reinvention stories.

And I suppose it's because I have an interest in just this general, how we present in the world. And so often- Sure ... we become a thing, and we think we're stuck like that, right? Exactly. I think we- You've created your own box. Yeah. We become free when we realize, oh, I actually can.

I actually have the skills to do lots of things, right? And so it's really I just get to choose this one next thing. Or if money didn't matter, what would I really want to be doing? Exactly. I would like to be asking people questions, in case you wanted to know my answer to that question. I would like to ask people questions.

It's very fun. Yeah. Find patterns, et cetera. So about that, when I've heard you talk about, in our group together you presented about a couple of words that can really amplify your most authentic self. So tell me about that, because there are these Dutch words that don't even really have a translation to English so much.

So start to share a little bit about what that was about. And where was that inspired by? Where did you come up with this concept that the concept is like, hey, this word could change your life, but we don't even have a translation for it. So I'm just so curious. Tee us all up for this sort of intriguing thing around language, and then also what these words mean to you and how this came to be.

[00:10:56] Rianne Klein Getlink : Yeah. First of all, the language in and of itself. I'm fascinated by language- ... 'cause it's through language that we give meaning to things we experience. As a Dutch person, we, like the Dutch, we're a tiny country. So from very young we get to learn other languages. Like English, I think I was six or seven when I started to learn Eng- English.

And then German lived in Germany for a little bit, so but German is also part of our education. So many Dutch people sp- most Dutch people speak multiple languages. And it's only when you start to learn multiple languages, you become aware that there are words in another language for which there are no literal translation in your native language.

If you only know one language, you don't even know. And just for an example, the English language has 70,000 more words than the Dutch language. Oh, wow. We know this through experience and we figured it out because do you know the book Eat, Pray, Love? So I was in Bali, and there was a co-working space, and there was a little book cabinet.

And my American friend Chris and I were just working there, and all of a sudden, my eye fell on one of the books that were in there and said, "Hey, that's Eat, Pray, Love in Dutch." And I grabbed the book, and it was like this thick. And he's "Why is it this thick?" And I said yeah." And then we figured out we just use more words to describe...

where you have one word, and we have a whole a whole sentence. Oh, 

[00:12:17] Christa Biegler, RD: interesting. You have... Yeah. I see now. I see now.

[00:12:21] Rianne Klein Getlink : But the other way around is also true. So you have words in other languages for which there's no English word. And I'm fascinated by these. Always have been. It's so fun to learn words and , to see the meaning.

And then during our presentation in, there's one word that is one of my favorite Dutch words because it's so simple, yet there's no literal word for it in your language. And that is, we have a word for when things go effortlessly. I guess that's the word, but it's a word.

When things go so easy, you don't have to think about it, just happens. And we have one word for it, and the word in Dutch, I'm gonna say it in Dutch, is vanzelf. And you spell it V-A-N-Z-E-L-F, vanzelf. Vanzelf. Vanzelf. 

[00:13:11] Christa Biegler, RD: Which I want to quite... Vanzelf, from an English-speaking person- Yeah, right

that sounds like from self, right? That's it. 

[00:13:18] Rianne Klein Getlink : From- Yeah. 'Cause van, yeah, van you probably know the listener probably knows someone with a last name that starts with van. That's a Dutch heritage, Dutch lineage last name. It means from. And then zelf is self, like lit- same as English.

So it's from self. So we say, when things go effortlessly, we say they go from self And if you dissect that word, the reason things go effortlessly, it's because they originate from the self. It's they originate from within. So I always find it fascinating to ask my clients, what in your life feels effortless?

What feels so easy to you? Or... And most of the time we don't know. Most of the time it's a complete blind spot to ourselves. Because we believe it's easy, so why wouldn't it be easy for you? But it's easy for us. So if you wanna discover, as your listener, if you wanna discover your from self, ask friends, ask your spouse, ask your partners.

What do I do? And it can be in any context. Can be in a professional context, can be in like the family, the household management. Can be in friends, like friendship, relationships. What do I do so effortlessly that you're like, "That's so you"? And just become aware of it. And then- amplify it. Then just do more of it. Like for an example, I've always been quite colorful. Did you mention it today? I don't know. Yeah. Be- Before we hit record. I love it Yeah. Very colorful. I do not own a single piece of black clothing. I don't. It's just I would look horrible. Like black would just like my...

All the color would be drained from my face. But I'm very colorful, and that's not just in clothes, that's in... I'm expressive, like even people, if they're watching the video, I'm like using my hands all the time. I'm expressive and I always thought "Okay, but I'm too much."

"Let's dim it down a little bit. Let's not be and that's what I mean also with filters, like you put a layer on in order to look professional or come across as professional. And I say don't do it. Don't. 

[00:15:31] Christa Biegler, RD: Yeah. I have a story I think that relates to this.

There's two things. First when you are talking about van zelf, from self, what is effortless, I've mentioned this a few times on the podcast. It reminds me of this moment I had when reading The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, and I felt very called out because he was talking about zone of excellence versus zone of genius.

And most people will die in their zone of excellence, something people say that they're very good at, but they're not necessarily ... It's not effortless. It's not like I would wake up and do that every day, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's I'm good at it and the world would like me to do it, so I do it, right?

But zone of genius is more of von zelf. Yes. It's effortless. It is that. And about the mask that we sometimes develop, I also think there was a time I was doing a style assessment, which was money well spent, by the way. So fun. It's like you get dressed every day. And so speaking of ways we understand ourselves or become aware of ourselves, which I think I do wanna underline and highlight that you said when you're wondering what is effortless, ask people around you.

And take a good sampling from all types of people because people will see you different ways, right? And it's good for you to ask yourself and to not allow yourself to say, "I don't know." To say, "But if I did know, what feels effortless," right? Something I was just working on a couple of days ago poured out of me effortlessly, which is how I knew that I need to quit suppressing this thing, right?

Because I'm supposed to be on this path. It's no I'm ready for that reinvention thing as well. So anyways, doing this style assessment, I remember she was verbally asking me the questions to identify my personality of how I like to get dressed. And she asked something about when you get around people, or some version of do you essentially are you an introvert or an extrovert?

And I said it just depends on where I am. I'm generally a bit extroverted, but where I live I'm a bit introverted." And she's "Oh, I just mean what's your natural tendency?" And it was really interesting because it was like, oh, I have created a filter for myself for where I live because of cultural norms or whatnot, right?

Because it's what I find exciting and whatnot and wanna talk about is not what is being talked about in the normal social circle. So I've literally created this filter, and It kinda hit me a little bit because it was like, oh, this is where we feel that general dis-ease in our body, where we feel really uncomfortable.

And so becoming aware of these things, and it came from an innocuous question, right? She just asked- do you kinda come out or you kinda go in, right? And it's like- Yeah ... oh, it just depends on who I'm around. That's not the real answer. What would your natural tendency be?

Oh, all my natural tendency would be for sure to be bold, to be bright. Yep. To be outgoing, et cetera. So those are just some things or examples as well. that I have on van zelf or effortless. When did you start to have... I actually wanna ask as well, you were in Bali doing co-working.

Was this after your big shift life shift after you were 40? That's the,

[00:18:21] Rianne Klein Getlink : That's when I had that, "Oh, I can do anything I want." Yeah. That was in the fall of 2016, and I ended up buying a one-way ticket. And I ended up in Bali for two and a half years. 

[00:18:31] Christa Biegler, RD: Oh, see, these are... Like, that's kinda fun. I just think it's sorta fun to hear about this.

So you were on your little Eat, Pray, Love adventure. Yes, I was.

[00:18:39] Rianne Klein Getlink : Yeah ... 

[00:18:39] Christa Biegler, RD: it's funny. I placed that at the end. My kids will be done with school in six years, and I'm like, "I'm gonna go on a little Eat, Pray, Love adventure. I'll be... have plenty of time." So anyway, very funny. Very funny. Okay, so we have this one word, van zelf, van meaning from, zelf meaning another one.

Okay, so but then you have another word that you love that helps with this whole amplifying of your auth- most authentic self. So walk us through that a little bit more. Yeah, there's another one. Take us farther into this journey of- ... of where you landed on these two words.

[00:19:09] Rianne Klein Getlink : there's another word that I thought that was only the Dutch language, but I heard during a presentation that the Germans have it too, which makes sense, 'cause Dutch and German are very connected. But there's another word, and it's a fascinating word I don't know if your listeners, are they into the realm of like manifestation?

They could be. Could be? I think that's a, yeah. Yeah. And it's a word that the Dutch use in the context mostly between the period when you book a vacation. Everybody knows, when you book a vacation. You book your hotel, you book your flights, or whatever. But usually that's not the same day that you actually go on vacation.

Most of the time there's this moment in time, and then whatever a couple of months later or a couple of weeks later, there's the actual going on such vacation. And that time period, we have a word for it, and the word is called voorpret. Voorpret. You spell it V-O-O-R-P-R-E-T.

And voor is Dutch for, same as in English, for, before. For, before. And pret is fun. It's just joy. So literally Saturday I went to pick up a rental car. I don't own a car. I live in the Netherlands. I can walk everything. But I needed a rental car 'cause I had an appointment in the middle of nowhere.

At the Hertz, the rental agency, because I come there more often, I know him. So we chatted for a little. I'm a, how do you say it? I'm a good customer. And so we chat for a little bit, and I asked him what are you doing?" He says, "Ah, yesterday I booked my vacation."

Yeah. He said... And I said, "Oh, great. So now the voorpret has started?" "Yes," he says. He immediately knew. It's a very regular word. It's called before fun. And the before fun, so the voorpret- if I had to describe it and if, like Dutch people describe it it's the pure anticipation of the joy you're going to experience during your vacation.

And it's not just a visualization. It's not "Oh, yes, we're gonna be at the beach," or, "Oh, yes, we're gonna..." It's actually you can see yourself already there. Maybe you go to Google Maps and you look up restaurants in the area where you wanna go eat. Maybe you've been there before and you go through your phone, like old photos or even an album of old photos.

You immerse yourself in the knowing you're gonna be there and you're gonna have fun. There's no anticipation of anxiety. It's not "Oh, what if the plane doesn't go?" Or- ... "Oh, what if the hotel's dirty?" None of that. It's just all fun. And I think it's a fascinating word because we use it mostly, like the average Dutch person uses it in the context of vacation, but you can use it for anything.

[00:21:40] Christa Biegler, RD: That was my question, was is it- Doesn't matter ... only for 

[00:21:42] Rianne Klein Getlink : vacation? But I think because we are wired I don't know why, but over the course of time we became more anxious about stuff. If you look back 50, 60, 70 years ago, people were less anxious, maybe because there was less information, and now we feel like we need to control everything.

Like people now get anxiety if they go drive and they don't have Google Maps. That gives people anxiety, whereas in the past it was like, okay, you just, we'll figure it out. Figure it out. We just ask. Yeah. So I think sometimes more information creates more anxiety because we- feel like we're more in control, and then we don't have it, it creates anxiety. So now when we have big events in our lives, we're, eh. But maybe, like in the context of graduation, for example, Your daughter is 12 and the other one is 14. Is any one of them- ... the 21-year-old, is she finishing, like school soon or- She just graduated a few weeks ago.

So was there a ceremony? Yes. So did she have ... what was her state of being in the lead-up to the graduation? That's 

[00:22:43] Christa Biegler, RD: a good question. I didn't think about that. Was it anxious or was it joy? Oh, I think there was some relief, if I had to guess. Relief. That she wouldn't be doing homework for a while.

Get 

[00:22:51] Rianne Klein Getlink : it. I do too. So it's more about the past, like things being in the past, than the anticipation of the actual event. 

[00:22:57] Christa Biegler, RD: And I also find that, like with that particular graduation- And I think this can happen a lot, where the things are so full, life is so full, the days are so full, but we're not really getting the opportunity.

I think the biggest issue with volpret, is that we're not indulging in it enough. And so I think about this because I hosted retreats for a couple of years. I'm not this year. So what something very important in retreat hosting is that the first day is just settling in because there's so much stuff.

There's so much baggage that comes with arriving, and especially for women who tend to be in charge of lots of different things these days, right? We've taken on more and more. Yeah. Just the going of the thing that we've already excitedly figured out that we're going to, sometimes we have a little bit of dread before we go.

This is a natural phenomenon I've witnessed in humans. Before we go to a thing, we can have a little bit of dread because we think, "Oh, this is gonna take me out of my normal things that I need to do," even though I like, I know I wanted to do this. I'm excited, et cetera. But my point is we don't indulge in volpret as much as I think we should- Should

or could or have the opportunity to, right? It's not a should. We don't need a should on ourselves. But it's oh, am I indulging in this really useful... so often, to your point, we indulge in unproductive emotions. Buffering worry, like anything that is just like a makes us feel like we're doing something, but we don't actually get anywhere, and that's where we become frustrated with ourselves.

But it's what if you were in to indulge in joy, to indulge- That's it ... in fun, right? And I remember one of my coaches, she always talked about scheduling in the fun first, right? Yeah. And I did that yesterday. Something I don't do very often is, because it takes up a lot of time, is online shopping, and I had been working hard on things.

And of- there's always more work to do, but I scheduled myself online shopping time yesterday at 8:30 PM, and I was like a kid in a candy store. I was, like, very excited 'cause I had some store credits to use, so I had some volpret, right? I was like- "I'm looking forward to doing this before I go to bed because I scheduled it for myself," right?

I'm gonna ignore all the other things that need to be done because I scheduled this fun time for myself. Yeah. And so often we don't do that, right? We're just continuing to stack things. And so it's what are we doing? What are we doing? What are we doing? What are we doing? We're not having fun.

Yeah. We're here 

[00:25:16] Rianne Klein Getlink : to live life- ... and experience who we are meant to be in this life. Yeah. Yeah. And yeah. I think we need... Yeah 

[00:25:24] Christa Biegler, RD: I'd like to ask, I think, an important question of thoughts of creating more voorpret in our lives. What are some practical things? Because as I think of, you booked yourself on this one-way ticket to Bali, but, and you stayed there for two and a half years, but there was...

Like, how did you find voorpret in the midst of that, right? 'Cause we often think, oh, if we change our circumstance, this relationship, where we live, our job, that's gonna result in it. And so often I think regardless I think what we were just saying is we get the opportunity to cultivate voorpret.

It's a choice. 

[00:25:56] Rianne Klein Getlink : The easiest thing and for your audience if they have anything right now in their lives that they've already planned in the future, like something they've planned in the future- it can be a night away with your spouse. It can be something fun with the kids.

Obviously summer holidays are coming up. Maybe they've scheduled something enjoyable already. The easiest thing to experience voorpret is to start talking about it right now. It's the easiest. If you have a fun date night planned with your spouse in two weeks, okay, start talking about it tonight at the dinner table, "wouldn't it be fun to do this?" Or maybe, "Okay, what are we up..." Not wait till the last minute or not, okay, but you're gonna arrange it, and we'll figure it out when it's there. Just get in the energy of it. Or if you have it somewhere, maybe you go to Disneyland for a day in, whatever vacation.

You have the Fourth of July coming up in two months. Talk about it. That's already in the experience of it. That's a choice, but you can talk about it in anxiousness. Oh, we gotta arrange this. No, we gotta pick up Grandma and Grandpa, and we gotta do all this, and we got all that.

I said now talk about it in what are you looking forward to. 

[00:27:06] Christa Biegler, RD: Yeah. I think that's an important distinction because as you were talking about it, I have, because humans have a negativity bias, there was someone who popped into my mind where I could hear the voice who would say, "Oh, but I have to do the plans, and I have to do everything," et cetera.

And it's like it's easy... that's the easiest way our brain wants to operate, right? And I think you mentioned another phrase that is such a fun one to tuck into our cap and to maybe write on a Post-It Note or write on your mirror or just whatever, and I think it's very good to start to practice this in our brain 'cause our brain is just thinking thoughts all day long, right?

And so it's if you start to plant thoughts more intentionally, so I love this phrase, wouldn't it be fun? Wouldn't 

[00:27:49] Rianne Klein Getlink : it be fun? Wouldn't 

[00:27:49] Christa Biegler, RD: it be fun, right? And when I started to... One thing I do, one reason I am even in any kind of business groups in general or surround myself with people who I never knew before is because it opens my brain up to possibilities.

Yeah. Things that I didn't know existed, and that makes me, I think- A better human 

[00:28:09] Rianne Klein Getlink : makes me- And it's literally how the brain works. Yeah. If you are in a yes state of mind, a yes and instead of yes but. A yes and state of mind, more ideas will flow in that- ... correlate with what you're talking about and resonate with you.

Yeah. So it's how our brains work. 

[00:28:27] Christa Biegler, RD: Yeah. Yeah. And I think if we allow ourselves to say, I like that one too, yes and instead of yes but, because very often we have to fight against the yes but, and it just takes a little more training, it does. It's like you have to build those pathways, build those roads in the brain, and with more practice we get better at it, right?

Yeah, it's true. . And it does help to, this is why we listen to things like this. Hopefully it's helpful, right? It's a good start. Whenever I get in kind of a funk, I like to listen to something like this because it helps me my own brain. Yeah. Rewire my mind,

[00:28:57] Rianne Klein Getlink : and recently our to add to this, another easiest way, it was a reel that our mentor did the other day.

He says, "This is gonna be the stupidest thing that I'm gonna teach, but I'm still gonna teach it." The fastest way to shift your energy and even your listener right now, if you're listening right now, it's a thing you can do right now, it's smile. I didn't think of that. Whatever you're doing right now, smile.

Yeah. And right away something switch, shifts. Even if you're folding laundry or whatever, or stressed out because you know, you still have to Instacart your shopping or whatever smile and see what happens, yeah. 

[00:29:38] Christa Biegler, RD: Yeah. I love that. I love that. Rianne, where can people find you online?

[00:29:43] Rianne Klein Getlink : Oh, this is gonna be... it's all in Dutch. Ha. Yeah. I'm gonna tell you . It's all in Dutch, so this is just for... I'm so grateful we get to do this because this is a topic I love to talk about, and then I also realize I have a Dutch business.

Yeah. And obviously listeners to your podcast, I'm like, okay. But my website, I'm gonna probably put them in the show notes 'cause there's no way I'm gonna be able to say it in English 'cause it's Kies Vanuit Je Kracht. That's my website. It's, what it means in Dutch, it's choose from a inner power. Ah, I see.

Yeah. Choose from inner power. My website is all about making better choices. Yeah. Making choi- not j- better more professional, but better so your energy gets to flow in a way it's meant to flow, so you get to be who you're meant to be, so you get to express how you're meant to express. Yeah. And choose from that place, that inner place that we all have inside.

[00:30:33] Christa Biegler, RD: Oh, I love it. Thank you so much for shining your light for us today, Rianne. I really appreciate it. 

[00:30:38] Rianne Klein Getlink : You're very welcome. Thank you for having me